It is time for to start shopping for wedding dresses. It's strange I always had all of these pictures in my head of how things would be, but when it's time for these things to actually happen, the pictures change.
What seemed lovely and perfect at one time, now seems strange and unnatural. A room full of people you don't know applauding a proposal that just took place, a show, a big affair, walking down the aisle, it all feels off.
I'm not sure if my views have changed due to zero waste, or I just never really wanted any of it in the first place? I'm an actor. I love performances; I love costumes; I LOVE to be center stage. But, this - this isn't a performance.
This is real. It's actually me. I'm not pretending to be someone else. Exchanging vows and professing our love to each other feels so.... intimate, so personal.
This doesn't have much to do with wedding dresses, I just wanted to update you on how I'm feeling. And, maybe why I've put off wedding dress shopping.
I have NO CLUE what I want. I just want it to be white. Pretty narrowing criteria for a wedding gown, eh?
As I've seriously thought about it, I've come up with a few rules. I am honestly flabbergasted as to how much money is typically spent on a gown that you wear for a couple of hours. IT'S INSANE.
I cannot do it.
The national average for bridal attire is almost $1,500. That's more than our 4 star hotel for the honeymoon! I'm just shaking my head thinking, "Experiences over things, experiences over things."
However, I do want to look FAB. So, these are the rules I have mulling around in my mind for a sustainable, zero waste wedding dress.
Second hand seemed to be too broad so i broke it down into a couple of different sections. I would definitely consider a family dress, if it fit or could be altered to my style.
It is always worth checking out your local goodwill or thift store. You never know what you're going to find! A lot of the dresses I've run across are hilarious.
There are several wedding dress shops that offer consignment gowns. It's the full wedding dress shop experience, but with second-hand gowns. I am SO excited to check Emerald City Gowns out. Pictures to come.
My goal is to go to a shop, figure out what styles, designers, and fit I'm looking for. Then equipped with that knowledge, shop online for the perfect gown.
If I couldn't find anything I liked, I'd look at etsy or other sustainable gown makers.
I'm seriously lusting over this Minna dress. An eco-friendly, zero pattern waste designer. Who's prices are pretty reasonable, I might add.
This dress is from Sanyukta Shrestha a fair trade, eco-friendly dress designer. There's a whole line called "Eco Goddess," which is exactly what I want to look like on my wedding day. Is that too much to ask?
can be worn again:
I would love it if I could wear my dress again! Of course, if not, I'd be more than happy to sell it.
can be consigned or sold:
If all else fails, I have no qualms about selling the dress. This is why I hired an awesome photographer. I'll be able to cherish the dress for ever via photo.
I'd love to hear stories about your wedding dresses! Was it a hand me down? Brand new? Did you have any regrets? Or was it just perfect?