I am honestly shocked how much The Lion King prepared me to deal with life's tragedies. Most of my blog posts are a reflection on things I am currently going through. These past several weeks I feel like I've been through the circle of life.
She had fallen ill about 6 weeks ago. It wasn't entirely unexpected, but I miss her all the same.
I have always joked that the only way to truly be zero waste is to die. In the process, I've realized that traditional burials are not environmentally friendly. In fact, you can be pretty wasteful even in death.
My family has never been very traditional. My grandmother has always detested funerals and would be furious if we gave her one. She always said, "If you weren't there to see me when I was still alive, I don't want you there when I'm dead."
Cremation isn't exactly environmentally friendly either. It can release a lot of toxins and pollutants into the air. However, I would say it's more eco-friendly than a traditional burial.
Traditional burials take a lot of space and resources so mother and I have been looking at alternative green burials, and I wanted to share with you what we've found.
"Contemporary funeral practices and cemeteries are ecologically problematic. Digging in a modern cemetery in the United States is much like digging through a toxic waste site.
Every year in the United States, the chemicals and materials buried along with bodies in a conventional burial include approximately 30 million board feet of hardwoods, 2,700 tons of copper and bronze, 104,272 tons of steel, and 1,636,000 tons of reinforced concrete (Greensprings Natural Cemetery Preserve 2011).
Also buried are approximately 827,060 gallons of embalming fluid, primarily formaldehyde. Exposure to formaldehyde affects funeral workers’ health, demonstrated by a high incidence of leukemia and brain and colon cancer among embalmers (Holness 1989).
The pollutants are not limited to the area in which they are buried. In one study, soil samples taken at coffin depth revealed elevated concentrations of metals used in casket construction, including copper, lead, zinc, and iron (Spongberg and Becks 2000).
Formaldehyde and other preservatives are pumped into bodies as part of the embalming process that, although not required by law in the United States, is characteristic of contemporary burial. Although a key justification for embalming is that it slows decay, it does not prevent it.
The next step in this complex ritual to deter decay is placing the body in an oftentimes hermetically sealed hardwood or metal casket. To prevent uneven settling of the soil at the surface, the casket is placed in a thin concrete vault.
There is no legal requirement to use vaults, but most private cemeteries in the United States require them. These vaults are then placed in modern “memorial parks,” extensive water-consuming lawns that are doused with chemical fertilizers to keep them a vibrant green." You can read more here.
Ashes of your loved one are mixed with concrete to create a reef ball. Reef balls are placed in the ocean providing habitats to fish and other micro-organisms.
The concrete used in forming the reef balls in pH neutral. The ball is hollow and the surface is highly texturized allowing all sorts or creatures to nest and create a home.
Growth can be seen in as little as a couple of weeks, and it will help support marine habitats for a lifetime. You can read more about reef balls here.
They also have an option for pets.
The mushroom suit is made of organic cotton and is infused with a bio mix that contains mushrooms and other microorganisms. All of their fabric scraps are composted.
The mushrooms and microorganisms aid in decomposition, they help neutralize toxins in the body, and transfer nutrients to plant life. You can read more about the mushroom suit here.
The also have an option for pets.
There are several companies that will take the ashes from loved ones and turn them into precious stones.
They separate the carbon and under extreme heat, they turn the carbon into graphite. Once it's been turned into graphite they heat it again and put it under enough pressure to turn it into a precious stone.
You can read more about turning ashes into diamonds here. They also have options for pets.
There are several companies offering tree urns. Most place a portion of the ashes inside of a fully biodegradable container.
The container contains a tree seed and uses the nutrients of the remains to grow. I think it would be lovely to have forests memorializing our loved ones instead of our current cemeteries.
Back home, in Arkansas, we live on a small lake. We've gone with this option for my grandmother. We chose a weeping willow tree. It kinda reminds me of Pocahontas. She'll be my own Grandmother Willow.
You can also purchase a Living Urn for your pet too. Read more on the Living Urn website here.
You can also just keep it really simple with no embalming and no fancy box. Using a plain pine box and forgoing the embalming process will allow your body to naturally return to the earth.
I think she'd be happy knowing that she was going to be a tree.
And, since she won't be having a funeral, this is my toast, my speech, my eulogy for the most bad ass woman I know.
You were a single mother in the 1950's. You were a self-made business woman. You were successful beyond belief in a man's world. You made millions and you gave all of it away to charity.
You gave away everything you had to help those less fortunate.
Arkansas is number four in America for childhood hunger and you drove a truck delivering food all over the state because "A hungry child cannot learn."
On one of those trips you fell and broke both your legs and before you drove yourself to the emergency room, you finished your route.
You were stubborn. You were tenacious. You were fire. It's because of you, I am the woman I am today.
Pour one out for Nina tonight. May she rest in peace.